Welcome to 'NLP Communication Skills'
You've selected of this course means you like me, want to get the
most out of your communication situations.
My objective in this online course, like all of my courses is to keep
theory to the minimum and teach you specific skills you can use in
your everyday life.
You must put into action, all that you learn here.
All the best, always
This course is based on Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) if you wish
to learn a bit about NLP beforeyour begin click here.
Briefly NLP™ is about how the brain works, people who
learn. NLP™ increases your ability to influence &
persuade others (children, spouse, clients etc.).
NLP™ is also about language, when you learn NLP™
you hone your ability to understand effects of
communication, use language to your advantage. This
single skill results in having the ability to build stronger
relationships, influence & persuade others,increase in your income and
a lot of peace of mind.
In NLP we believe, if one person can do something, we
can find how s/he does it and teach it to whoever
wants to learn it.
In this course, I will share with some of the 'secrets'
of powerful communicators. With your practice you will
make them your own. I trust you will follow my instructions. Because
passive reading will not produce any results.
Each lesson here will teach you more and more dynamic skills to be a
better communicator. Practice exercises provided.
If you have attended any courses on communication skills, business
communications etc., you will be pleasantly surprised to find this is a
So let's begin, your journey to become a great communicator, together.
LESSON # 1:
Communicate with clear objective(s) in mind.
All great communicators know that in communication
there is no such thing as failure, it's only a feedback,
that what you were doing did or did not produce the
results you aimed for.
Excellent communicators also believe that, "As
a communicator, you are 100% responsible
for to deliver your message in a manner that the message
intended equals message received".
You will rarely, if ever, see them say, "you did not understand what I said"
instead they say something like, "I think, I did not make make you
understand well enough, so let me explain in another way"
They also believe that, resistance means you need to develop a
sense of trust, with your listener(s).
Communication is most effective when it is targeted
towards some specific objective/purpose.
Here is what you have to do today.
In all your communication situations, verbal or
non-verbal THINK OF A SPECIFIC PURPOSE for
Ask yourself, "what is it that I intend to achieve through this
Do this every time you communicate with any one, At least for an hour
each day for next seven days.
Go practice before you proceed with next lesson.
Then come back!
LESSON # 2:
Use the language of brain.
Remember any language, humans speak, English, Urdu, Arabic, Sindhi,
Punjabi is basically some sounds they produce. We have given certain
meaning to certain sounds. E.g. Milk is “Dudh” in Urdu,“Haleeb” in
Arabic. Notice no matter what ‘sound’ you attach to the experience of
milk, it remains what it is, i.e. milk.
Language of brain is not the one you speak
or do it’s the five senses. i.e., sight, sounds,
feelings, smellsand taste.
All the information going in, or coming out,
goes in and comes out through the 5 senses.
People process your communication over
their five senses.
Just as we use both hands but one is used more than the other, humans
use all of their senses, yet one of the senses may be used more than
the other. This is called "primary sense".
Have you noticed that some people while speaking tend to say...
I 'see'... or 'I can imagine'
'I hear you loud and clear"... or "It sounds right
"I feel..." or "I grab your meaning"
They may be refereeing to the same thing at the same time, yet they
use different sensory terms to describe their experiences.
One simple way to effectively communicate with others is to use the
same sensory language that they use. i.e. If they use more words relating
to sense of sight, you use words relating to sense of sight and if they
use words related to hearing, you use words relating to hearing and so on.
This is a very powerful skill, require some practice.
In the NLP Practitioner training you will spend a lot of time to develop
and sharpen these skills so that you can use them almost automatically.
Here we will focus on developing your skills with the 3 most used senses
i.e. sight, sound and touch.
To build your skills make some simple statements using words from
each of the following lists.
Use words from one list at a time. Use your creativity and see if you can
make a story using words related to sense of sight, then tell the same
story using words from 2nd list and once you get hold of this, you may
feel like using words from the 3rd list.
Write them first and then say them out loud as if you are speaking to
Once you have practiced them individually practice using several words
from all lists together.
Here is an example...
"You know what, it appears to me that once you focus on building
your skills you will notice other people may begin to perceive you
as a great communicator. Not only this will bring more clarity in
your communication it will help you articulate your message so
that people can hear what you have to say, loud and clear. You may
want to use these skills in your every day discussions to make a
solid point. Remember you do not need to take any pressure or
tension, make this a fun exciting exercise for yourself."
Remember there is no substitute for your practice and that is what will
enhance your skills.
Go practice before you proceed with next lesson. Then come back.
LESSON # 3:
Mean what you say and say what you mean.
Here is your final lesson for this course!
More than 90% of your communication is non-verbal.That's right.
It's Not what you say but 'HOW' you say delivers the actual meaning in
your communication. e.g. try saying, "Assalam u Alikum" in a happy,
sad and angry tone of voice. Does it sound the same or does it sound
like 3 different utterences?
Many people ask me, "why can't you learn NLP by reading books?
I have to remind them, "Written words represents less than 10% of the
actual communication and NLP is experiential" You need to practice
NLP. This is why the basic NLP training is called 'NLP Practitioner Training'.
This is also why, reading these exercises will not give you any concrete
results. Practice will. So now, our task is to develop congruence in
communication. Congruance means your verbal and non-verbal
communication deliver the same message.
Ever noticed how great communicators make us feel they mean what
they are saying? The do so by putting proper emphasis on each word.
To be congruent, your tone should match your words and your
actions should deliver the same message.
I wish I could share with you all the exercises we do in NLP Practitioner
Training to develop this skill, but I can give you only 7% through these
However, to build this skill do this exercise.
Take a good story book and read it out as if you are
acting the different character in it. Give yourself
some practice. It will be fun. Do this for at least 20
minutes for next seven days or more. You will be
Develop expressions of your face, change your tone.
Make it fun activty for your self.
Master communicators use language in a particular way. They use
language in a manner that you find yourself almost automatically following
They may tell you a story and within it deliver hidden messages. In the
NLP Practitioner Training you learn to use language like a master
In additon to a lot of other things, you learn The powerful hypnotic
language to create greater acceptance of your message in all areas of
life. You will also learn precision questioning to get to the heart of an
issue with speed and precision. You will discover how to challenge and
overcome objections elegantly. You will also acquire powerful conversational
skills to assist someone in changing their mind. You will empower yourself
with elegant negotiation skills.
If you truly want discover the secrets of using language elegantly & boost
your communication skills, join NLP Practitioner Training.
I thank you for allowing me to share with you this information. I sure hope
to meet you in person and hear your success story. I also want to
congratulate you and tell you that...You are special. Very special. Because
you actually took out time and decided to do something to make
yourself a better communicator.
Someone said, "All problems are communication problems" I believe it is
so! You know that growth & learning are ongoing processes...the more
you learn the more you will discover how little you actually know.
Some times small steps lead to large success.
Let me share a personal experience.
Many years ago, when I was about
seven or eight years old. We had a
small lake near where I live. I used to go
there often with my mother and sisters.
It was in between a beautiful lush green
park. There used to be many colorful
flowers there back then. I loved the calmness
of the lake it was so still.
As a child, one of my pleasures was to throw small stones in that lake
and see those ripples, grow bigger and bigger. I wondered with amazement,
how such a small stone can create such a big ripple.I learned, back then,
that even a small change keeps getting bigger over a period of time.
I believe you like me, like to make small positive changes in your life...
because if you do that often enough sooner or later you will find your life
has changed. Mine did !
I wish you all the best, always